Anyone who knows me will tell you how much I loveto be organised! It genuinely makes me feel calm and happy to organise even the smallest of tasks.
This blog post won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but I hope some of you find it useful 😊
Since turning the big 3-0 in December, I have been on a real mission to focus on improving my mind and increasing my happiness. I’ve always been a pretty smiley and happy person but this wasn’t always the case inside.
Last year I got married. Now every day I wake up and see my husband and feel hugely grateful to have met him. He is the most incredible support in my life and I’m so happy to have him. Unfortunately I had quite a stressful time in the run up to our wedding and my anxiety took over a bit. Since the big (fantastic) day passed I have been able to take a step back, settle down and enjoy married life. This year has so far been the happiest of my life and I am taking each day as it comes, keeping focussed and being happy.
Being organised makes me feel calm, in control and happy. When I sat down and really thought about it, this is the list I use to structure most of my days:
1. Wake up & breathe
This may sound silly but when you wake up try and just lie there for a minute and take some big, deep breaths in and out to start your day with some calm.
2. Set mini goals
I say ‘mini’ goals because you don’t want this to feel like a chore. Having MS means I can struggle with the smallest tasks such as just having a shower – I feel exhausted after and have to take a quick rest. So my daily goals might be to wash my hair, change the bedding and draft a new blog post.
3. Make a to do list
I love making to do lists for just about everything! But recently I’ve started carrying a little notebook in my handbag so I can quickly jot down little tasks I want to do in the day, like buying milk or texting my mum.
4. Be grateful
I recently wrote about my adoption of a daily gratitude journal when I blogged about coping with anxiety. I write a couple of things in my journal each night that I’m thankful for. These can be anything, from being served by a friendly shop assistant to having a quick chat with a good friend.
5. Push yourself
I’ve always struggled with change and I’m not the best at taking myself out of my comfort zone. But each day I do try and push myself a bit in some way. If I do something I can’t really be bothered doing or I’m putting off, then I’ll reward myself by doing something I like, such as having a cup of tea and a biscuit.
6. Check in with yourself
Every so often throughout the day try and find a couple of quiet minutes to pause your mind and check in with how your day is going and how you’re feeling. If anything is stressing you or making you feel worried then try writing down what it is and that should relax your mind so you don’t need to keep thinking about it.
7. Check in with others
Humans are social beings, so it’s good to check in with someone each day. If you work from home a lot or live by yourself then this can be tough. But it could be something as small as sending a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while a WhatsApp message. You could even pop out to your local coffee shop and when they ask how you are, actually focus on this and give a meaningful reply that could strike up a little conversation. I find this sort of thing leaves me walking away with a little spring in my step.
8. Do what makes you happy
Life doesn’t always have to be about pushing yourself and trying new things. Take time each day to make sure you do the things you know you love and are comfortable with. This could be sitting on the sofa watching a TV show or enjoying your hobby such as scrapbooking or knitting. It can be a good thing to take time out and sit firmly within your comfort zone.
9. Pause & reflect
At the end of the day, maybe when you’re having a bath or you’ve just got into bed, take a moment to breathe deeply and reflect on your day. Fill in your gratitude journal or just think about what you were thankful for that day. This helps train your mind to think in this positive way.
We all lead busy lives and it can be somewhat challenging fitting it all in. Just remember that more often than not, it really doesn’t matter if you don’t do that certain thing today. Just do what makes you happy. That goes for this list as well – it is just a bit of guidance and you can pick and choose what you take from it. Don’t put pressure on yourself and do remember the importance of rest. Include bedtime in your list of daily priorities, make it your reward for a day of little victories and do take the time to stop and appreciate the small pleasures of cosying up in bed and getting some well-deserved sleep 😴
I hope you’ve found this blog post useful! Please do let me know in the comments below if you have any other tips 💜